They have this normal emotional reaction

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The first reflex reaction I had, well, it was stress, a little knot in my stomach, shortness of breath, you know, when you have a little trouble breathing like that, surprise, little tingling in your stomach, really a purely emotional reaction, a stress reaction that you can't change. And that's when you can actually bring reason into play and you have to be very, very attentive.

I had two solutions at that time. Either I let the emotion settle in and the natural automatic emotion, without the intervention of my reason, was to stress, to say to myself: Oh la la, this is a disaster. This person is a great person. We have worked together for so long. I will never find someone as good. It is going to be a struggle. Authentic French is ultimately going to be less good, less efficient, and I am stressed. And by doing that, I would have really installed myself in a state of emotional stress that would have been intense.

And that's often the norm. That's why I insist. Most people operate like that. that comes and they don't try to cut off, to break this reflex reaction, and they let this reflex turn into emotion. Most people do that.

What I tried to do was to take a break already. Oh la la. That just happened to me. Plus, it happened during a complicated period. I had a lot of other problems, including a big one, which I might have the opportunity to talk about later, I'm not ready right now, but I like to use this podcast to share everything I learn. But right now, I haven't learned enough to talk about it and give details. But this event came at a very, very bad time.

But what I did was I sat down, I took a breath, I tried to calm down, I tried to try to chase away this stressful reflex reaction a little bit and tell myself: "Well, that's it, that's how it is, I can't poland whatsapp number data do anything about it, I can't change anything. That's it. What's the rest going to be like?" But I really took the time, I took a breath.

Then I took a few moments where I said to myself "no one is irreplaceable and we will find a solution", so I tried to reassure myself in that way. I moved on to something else because you really have to try to cut yourself off, to give yourself time. I thought about something else, I continued the work that I had started before. And as I went along, I tried to reason through reason in fact. I took my journal, I made a list of actions.

The first action was to talk to this person, whom I really like, to try to find a solution and make sure that she stays with us for a while, that the breakup is not brutal, so that she can continue to work with us for a few months to succeed in moving forward, to get ahead, to gain time.

Then I started to think, "OK, maybe it's not that hard to find someone to replace her. There are plenty of good people out there, people who can help us." So I started to put things into perspective like that too.

And then I even went so far as to look for the opportunity, because often in negative events, there is positive. And I looked for the opportunity, I said to myself: "Where can be the opportunity in this negative thing?" because I would really have preferred that this person stay, and I love him.